Maybe the trick is not bail out, even when we find out that some this is not what we thought. That’s what we’re going to discover again and again and again Nothing is what we thought. Neither is mindfulness or fear. Compassion – not what we thought. Love. […] Courage. These are code words for things we don’t know in our minds, but any of us could experience them. These are words that point to what life is when we let things fall apart and let ourselves be nailed to the present moment.
[Chodron, Pema. When things fall apart]